Eyal Gutentag on How Can We Help Our Children Transition into the New Normal

Eyal Gutentag on How Can We Help Our Children Transition into the New Normal

Facing the unknown can be challenging. Over the coming months, as we move through the COVID-19 pandemic and transition into the “new normal,” our children are going to need extra support. While many kids and teens are excited to get back to their old lives, others are feeling overwhelmed by the idea. Parents may be feeling the same way. It’s completely normal for you and your family to be feeling excited, as well as anxious or stressed as the country re-opens. Aside from supporting your kids physical safety, this is an important time to support them emotionally.

As a parent who has been working from home or stuck inside with your kids for months during lock-down, it may feel hard to imagine why they wouldn’t be excited to get back out and go to school or play with their friends. But, there are several reasons returning to “normal life” could be anxiety inducing. Some kids feel that their time in isolation was better, and enjoyed not going to school, staying at home, and spending time with their family. Others may be afraid to return to stresses from their old life, such as drama amongst friends, or even bullying. Most of all, your children may be scared that the world won’t look the same as it did before COVID-19, which is a valid fear. Things won’t be the same.

So, how can we help our children make this transition? It may not be an easy process, but here are a few things you can do to ease their anxiety during re-entry.

Start by asking your child how they feel about the pandemic and moving forward into the new normal. Really listen. The most important thing you can do right now is actively work to understand the way your child is feeling and thinking.

Let them know that their feelings are perfectly normal.

It is essential that you validate your child’s feelings during this time. Regardless of how they feel about emerging into the world again, they are normal. They aren’t alone in feeling this way. Simply acknowledging how they feel, and letting them know you are there for them, can be a powerful tool.

By discussing safety and protocol, you can create a plan for re-starting activities in a way that makes your child feel more safe. Anytime you can decrease the “unknown,” you can reduce some anxiety. If your child is worried about a particular event, such as seeing friends or starting school in the fall, brainstorm together things that may make them feel comfortable. The key is to focus on what you can control.

By starting with situations in which you have more control, you can help alleviate fear. It may be helpful to start small. Try arranging a safely distanced 1-on-1 play-date outside, a distanced outdoor movie, or another activity that re-introduces your child in a controlled but fun way. In a safe environment, you child may open up to the idea of facing “normal” again. Of course, if you are concerned that your kid or teen is struggling to cope, or may be experiencing more anxiety than you expected, you should always consult with a professional. — Eyal Gutentag

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